Now, I'm not saying that every May-December relationship is born of a fear of death, any more than every other relationship is born of true compatibility.
But it is worth deconstructing the unconscious forces behind our choices, particularly when they impact so profoundly on self esteem and social status.
If we all focused on accepting the finite nature of life, and of valuing every stage of our lives, perhaps we would find ourselves making different decisions.
We would certainly enhance the lives and relationships we have now, particularly the relationships with ourselves.
We are both morning people and nearly always in a good mood.
We are both hard-working with many hobbies in common.
(I was 39 and she was 55 then.) Our relationship is unique, because it's not just built on sex, but on trust, respect and love.OPINION: I clicked on the Instagram account of a male friend to check out photos of his new girlfriend.My friend is pushing 50, good looking, and a successful professional, and I was expecting his girlfriend to be attractive and young.We've made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer.Here are some answers which are clear, articulate and to the point.Not only is she beautiful, but she has a wonderful sense of humor and is very giving.The ability to talk about anything with her was refreshing and engaging.It can be enormously costly to start a new family in midlife, both emotionally and financially. Recently, I watched an interview about aging with Stacy London, the American stylist and host of And why do men devalue women over 40?"Maybe there's a fear of mortality when men watch women age," London suggests, "and that it's just too much of a mirror."For a man, an older partner is a constant reminder of his own age.She divorced her first husband and married Macron 14 years later.The unusual relationship and age gap isn't making waves in France, but it's getting a lot of attention in other parts of the world.