The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 44% of lesbian women and 61% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence, or stalking by a partner, compared to 35% of straight women.
All of that aside, it's also just not true that being a lesbian magically takes away the stress, drama, and insecurity involved in dating.
LGBTQ people are three times more likely than straight, cisgender people to experience major depression or generalized anxiety disorder, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness.When we launched our first app, Dattch, the key focus was to stop cis men from coming into queer spaces and ruining the experiences.On other platforms, I used to get messages all the time like, “You haven’t met the right guy yet, let’s have a threesome.” What we found in our research of traditional dating products was that most of them were built by men.Unlike other sites, the platform offers a multitude of sexual and gender identities, all of which are displayed on a user’s profile.It also allows users to report profiles that are made by straight men or straight couples looking for a threesome, two common occurrences on apps not specific to queer people. Exton: Four years ago, the online dating industry was very different.The week of the inauguration we actually saw the largest amount of new profiles being created.There’s been so much dialogue about politics in the community, even between our team.It sparked a heated conversation between me and my coworkers (all of us were on the side that this man and his letter were pretty clueless, btw). Plus plenty of terrible first dates with women who stared at their phones instead of, you know, actually talking to me.But in talking about how awful heterosexual gender dynamics can be, the conversation took a tired turn I've heard too many times. It's not just that I have terrible luck (though it definitely felt that way for a while).When your community seems to be on the brink of direct threat, there’s a big push to re-engage with others who are like you.A few months ago, a man wrote a letter to his "curvy" wife that essentially put himself on a pedestal for daring to love her larger-than-average body. And then there was Beth*, an ex-friend-with-benefits who was sneakily fat-shaming me throughout the five months we were together.