With soaring divorce rates and record numbers of single-parent households in the West, researchers suggest it is time to rethink the Western approach to love.
Harvard academic Dr Robert Epstein has studied the subject of arranged marriages for eight years, looking at the approaches taken in cultural groups including Indian, Pakistani and Orthodox Jewish.
Relationship experts claim this is because arranged matches are carefully considered, with thought going into whether potential partners’ families, interests and life goals are compatible.
This means they are more likely to commit for life – and to stick together through rocky patches.
He lives in San Diego and they are also very interested. Then San Diego shot me an email and we decided to touch base the following week. (Okay, so he was wearing a t-shirt and shorts and I couldn’t actually see how chiseled he was, but I could imagine and I was pleased.) We finished our conversation on a good note. He said he’d message me on Whats App and we should talk again soon. Don’t kid yourself.) At this point I zone out because I knew 1. As an Indian child you never really had it and never really will. “I know I’m so smitten by good looks and an accent, but damn,” I told them. Either some people lack common courtesy, or again, that’s just the way the game is played. Along with education, job and geography, everything seemed like a good bet. His mother also said she was going to call mine once they double-checked something with the horoscopes, but never did. I was talking to my friend who has a cousin and her son got married right? (Well, clearly there’s no such thing as maintaining control. Now is back in Singapore working for his dad’s company. He has interviewed more than 100 couples in arranged marriages to assess their strength of feeling and studied his findings against more than 30 years of research into love in Western and arranged marriages.His work suggests that feelings of love in love matches begin to fade by as much as a half in 18 months, whereas the love in the arranged marriages tends to grow gradually, surpassing the love in the unarranged marriages at about the five-year mark. So as part of this new self-confident, go-getting frame of mind, I was going to let it rain. (Nor did I have dhideer kalyanam*.) I’m still very much single, on the market and available – just like I regularly remind all of my friends. When I last blasted you with unnecessary details of my life, I told you I had a revelation and decided to get up off my behind and put myself out there.