Ask yourself, is this man in his child’s life for not only the first day of school and graduation but all the moments in between?
If a man is unable to provide for a child financially, that’s not the child’s mother’s fault.
I also thought paying child support meant your child’s needs were met.
I didn’t realize bills stretch far beyond a daycare’s door.
Before you meet the children, ask yourself, are you ready to commit to being in this child’s life.
When you do meet them in the beginning, make sure the interactions are short and brief. Plan an activity with a finite amount of time and with no pressure.
For instance, I wasn’t used to being someone’s second priority and having to schedule dates around a custodial calendar.You don’t need an attorney to obtain custodial rights.A father can represent himself pro se and file a motion if he cannot work out an agreement with his ex.I “met” Deesha Phillywaw through her book Co-parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households After Divorce.I wish I read her work before I became a co-parent.Children shouldn’t be pressured to like or love someone, but they should be respectful.Don’t make meeting his children be the validation of your relationship. When you think you’re ready, the children are probably ready a year from that.Someone can be serious about you, but they may not be ready to introduce you to their kids.I also didn’t have to budget and sacrifice for others, so I could easily drop dollars on designer bags, shoes and clothes–if I opted to spend the day at the shopping mall.Now, that I’m on the other side of the fence and co-parenting the most terrific toddler you’ll ever meet, I want my experiences to positively impact singles dating someone with children.