Here are the top 10 signs you are dating a person who is not ready for a committed relationship with you.
If you notice several of these signals in that person, it may be time to ask yourself why you're still in a relationship with them.
The failures of their unsuccessful partnerships are always based on the faults of their exes.
They lack the maturity to take responsibility for their mistakes in their past relationships.
Make sure to probe a new person to find out why past long-term relationships did not work and ended.
Ask questions to discern whether failure occurred because of their inability to develop intimacy or other issues that would give you pause for concern. This may be the first and only time you'll hear them speak the truth (as they know it).
Often emotionally unavailable people will say, "I'm just not good at having a relationship," or "I don't think I'm ready for marriage." Believe them! But don't fall into their trap: there is something terribly seductive about trying to be "the one" who turns them around. Especially when out in public with them, notice whether they treat others with kindness or contempt.
(The booby prize is thinking that you'll ever be good enough to meet their impossible standards.) Beware of someone who operates the relationship as if it should revolve around them.Have you ever met someone who "romantically" knocked you off your feet -- as in "Hi Mom and Dad...you're not going to believe this, but I just met the man of my dreams! How did they miss the obvious warning signs before they became intimate and gave their heart away? " or "He wants the same thing I want: to settle down and have children.") For those of us who've been in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person, we know the pain of not being able to get close to the person we love.If you notice that the person you're dating exhibits several of these signs, don't waste time trying to convert or change them. This will take discipline on your part, but it will save you from great emotional disappointment and allow you to be free to meet someone for a healthier relationship that has a future. If you want to know how the planets in your Horoscope are affecting your relationships, go the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date.And, if you're curious to learn more about your personal Horoscope and what it says about your love relationships, career, investments and health in: Order your customized Report: Your Horoscope & Future in 2015-16. Larry Schwimmer is an astrologer in private practice.They may have suffered through a troubled childhood experience that has wounded them or they now have higher priorities such as their career or taking care of a sick parent.Perhaps, they are recently divorced or widowed, and legitimately not ready to get involved in an intimate relationship.Then, there are those who are too afraid of taking the risk of falling in love because they have been hurt too much in their previous relationships.Ironically, most emotionally unavailable people are easy to spot, quite transparent, showing you their true colors, right from the beginning.Emotionally unavailable people tend to be perfectionists, always looking for the fatal flaw or character defect that gives them permission to exit a relationship and move on.In reality, they are debilitated by their own self-criticism and fear of being rejected.