Parents should be sensitive to their children’s feelings but not turn to a permissive parenting style because they feel guilty or embarrassed.
Balancing the emotions of your children with the excitement of a new, positive, relationship will help smooth the transition into single-parent dating.
Similar research also supports this idea: a gradual approach allows children time to adjust to their parents’ dating (and the new dating partner) at a pace that allows for successful parenting.
If the decision has been made to bring the new partner into the child’s life, make sure that they meet on neutral territory (i.e., not home) in a casual setting.
Tread carefully when introducing children to your new partner.
Klungness recommends that any new relationship should be exclusive for several months (that is, a serious relationship and not a casual affair) before they are introduced to the children.
If you’re a 20- to 35-year-old woman without any children I caution you against dating a man with kids.
I did this once and, let me tell you, I learned my lesson.
His youngest daughter was extremely sickly or maybe just accident-prone.
It was difficult for us to make plans because we had different schedules, and, to make matters worse, his daughter would get sick (or whatever) when we had plans.
The girls’ mother also had a demanding job, so she never seemed available to deal with her own children.
Introduce the new partner as a “new friend” and not the new “love of my life.” Sensitivity Counts.
Children may have more trouble adjusting to their fathers’ dating relationships than their mother’s.