They will tell you all if you will just listen, it is spread poison.Don’t be picky - you will never find a perfect emotional, intellectual and physical match. Instead, be selective: look for family values, integrity, compassion, commitment, intelligence, etc..A story attributed to Rabbi Meir Shapiro Zt”l puts the common dating system into perspective.A sofer (scribe) who lived in Warsaw was trying to earn a living by selling Mezuzot and Tefillin. Take your merchandise to Berlin, where wealthy people will pay you top German marks, and you will be able to make ends meet.” So he packed up one hundred and fifty Mezuzot, traveled to Berlin and set up shop in the community selling his Mezuzot at 50 German marks a piece.Develop your own inner vision on life, your own taste, your goals, love and appreciate the whole package even if the wrapping is not perfect. You have to drill deep in order to strike pure water.We live in a throw away society, as easily as we dispose of used cars, and other appliances, we dump relationships and loved ones. In the noisy confusion of life, remember to spread your wings, you are Jewish, different, and very special. The process might be unfamiliar, yet very rewarding and fulfilling.The farmer and his wife toiled under the most severe conditions to support their family with a few chickens that laid eggs and a cow that gave milk. As time progresses, we get accustomed to the situation, and our worst enemy becomes change.Ultimately, time took its toll and hardship became the norm. We must tell the Pharaoh within each of us, “Let my people go!
The eagle quickly learned to eat chicken feed and to behave like the chickens on the farm. He asked the owner, “How did it happen that of all birds, the king of the skies is in captivity in the yard together with the chickens?The farmer and his wife had their bitter routine and never hoped for better. “You look as if the worst calamity has happened.” “It has,” sighed the anxious farmer. ” Let us not continue on the comfortable path, but rather get on the correct one. Many singles know what it is like to feel disillusioned, burned out, hurt from the dating experience, negative stereotypes, game playing, casual dating, shopping around, serious commitment phobia, being off the market and on the market.One day, the farmer came back from the market quite upset. Still there is a yearning to find the one, to know that you were meant for each other; to love and be loved unconditionally, to appreciate and be appreciated, and to make a real and meaningful connection.Resist the temptation to reveal too much about your personal life too soon.Avoid discussing with strangers about your real age, income, your ex-relationships, horrible dates, mishaps, legal problems, your psychiatrist. Discuss the future, the possibility for friendship, tell him/her about the ideal qualities, relationship, family that you might be interested in the future. Keep distance from other single friends who had bad relationships.By Tzvi Freeman There is a wonderful story of a poor farmer who lived under the rule of a miserable poritz in medieval Europe. No doubt, He will protect us from this Moshiach, too!The evil landowner provided minimal shelter in exchange for a large prtion of the farmer’s profits. ” Often in life, whether by choice or by chance, we enter into situations we ought not to be in.As for the differences, think of them as the hooks that hold us together. ” His wife, who was steeped with faith in the Almighty, answered calmly.Differences are the thing we have most in common.” From ‘Be within, stay above’- wisdom from the Rebbe. “Don’t worry my dear husband, the good Lord always protects His people. He redeemed us from the evil Haman and has protected us from harsh decrees throughout our exile.” The owner of the farm replied, “Since I gave it chicken feed and trained it to be a chicken, it never learned to fly.” He added.“It acts like a chicken, and therefore it no longer is an eagle.” “Nevertheless,” the researcher insisted,” it has the heart of an eagle, and it certainly could learn to fly.” After the two of them talked about this, they decided to examine who is right. Now spread your wings and fly.” The eagle looked around, down to the farmyard and up to the skies, but it still did not fly.