Experiments by Harvard researchers, writes Epley, demonstrated that when questioned immediately post-bust, people tended to lie due to their dread of punishment.
A short break seems to alleviate that fear enough that they go ahead and admit the ugly truth.
But exactly how do you find out without asking him outright and getting a look like you’ve just asked him to marry you?Relationships are hard, and a sentence worth of wisdom won't change that. Over on Reddit, thousands of people have answered the question, "What's the best relationship advice you have ever heard?" with insights that relate to everything from conflict to commitment.Never empty your glass – You might be shaking like a leaf and nothing would settle your nerves more than to knock back the glass of wine on your table, but trust me, it’s not worth it.If you want to stay in control of the date and keep him interested then take it easy and don’t overindulge.Other ideas might be to sketch your geographic moves over time or your most important life choices or anything that's relevant to the current discussion.The idea being to create a (literal) picture of the past that illustrates what to do—or not to do—in your future.While understanding that your partner may have a different take than you is helpful, he writes in Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want, you don't always imagine your partner's actual "different take." The best way to get your partner's point of view, he says, is to simply—oh yes, you saw this coming—ask for it.... Because sure, you want to pounce on him when you catch him in a jerky act—smoking a cigarette out the window?taking a catnap while your toddler plays video games on his cell phone? And not just to calm yourself down, either, though that's a helpful side effect.If your date becomes your boyfriend then there will be plenty of opportunities for both of you to let your hair down.But a guy will most likely be a little scared if you knock back a few shots before dinner.