When you’re not focused on “where things are going”, you give each other the freedom to enjoy each other’s company and make smart relationship decisions.
You also become very attractive in the process, because a guy will sense that you’re not making him the be-all and end-all of your life.
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She also starts expecting things from him – she assumes they’re going to be seeing each other every weekend, she expresses annoyance when he doesn’t call her more often, or she assumes an exclusive relationship instead of actually discussing it.
Suddenly he feels pressured, and she loses that cool-girl vibe that attracted him in the first place.
That means a woman will often think she’s in a relationship with a man when he’s still feeling things out.
So she becomes too available, too eager, and too invested in where this is all going.