It wouldn’t be surprising if you have a healthy dose of distrust for men in general, particularly if you have gone through a very difficult separation or breakup. Part of that change can revolve around when you will allow another man back in your life.Like most women and men, you are probably wondering when you will be ready to date again.Should your start dating again after the separation? That is what Bessie wanted to know when she asked me, “ It seems such an innocent question.Certainly the answer should be clear and straightforward.The feelings you are probably still massaging about future love and overcoming past difficulties are no doubt complex. If you have gone through an agonizingly difficult separation with your ex husband or ex boyfriend, the very thought of dating a man will likely be far from your present thoughts. You have come through a traumatic breakup and in your mind or perhaps lying inside your subconscious, men may very well represent the enemy.
Nevertheless, it is important not to let one man who hurt you and failed you, making you feel miserable.
Don’t be surprised if you feel lost or if your mind becomes trapped in uncertainty.
Don’t be surprised if you feel yourself wandering back (in your mind) to the old relationship, running through all the things that happened.
So it is never easy to leave behind the pain of a failed marriage or relationship.
With things ending on sour note, as is the case for most, there comes all kinds of challenges as you try to cope with unpredictable moods and expectations of the future.