If you are dating a divorced man with children, you need to fully understand what you are getting yourself into.It irks me when women date a divorced man and then complain that their boyfriend is paying too much child support and alimony. You have to expect that if your boyfriend has an ex-wife and kids, he must fulfill his financial and parental obligations to his first family.They both cheated on their spouses to be together and now they are --so more power to them!!
Let’s give him the benefit of the doubt and say he learned from that mistake, but he’s still not in the category of divorced guys we’re talking about here.The biggest mistake in new relationships is immediately going from first date to inseparable and dedicating all of your time and energy to this single person.When the guy you’re dating has other responsibilities, it allows for the perfect balance to grow a healthy relationship.The kids can be manipulative as she is at times and after years of being used as live bait, Well lets see who they grow into.But I can honestly say after seeing all this and going through this I now think twice when I hear a man being bashed for walking away from thier kids. What situation is better for them when you go with out, do everything you can and still are nothing but a plane ticket and a disrespected pawn?Because he has other obligations, he puts more emphasis on the time you do spend together.He appreciates your company and enjoys doing engaging and entertaining things with you, which helps to build your connection and delay the relationship plateau of sweatpants and Netflix binging. It’s only natural for him to revert back to his pre-marriage days by wanting to go out and enjoy his newfound freedom.He probably has a good job, since odds are, he’s been there a while. Your life may be in a constant state of crazy and your mind may usually run in 12 different directions, but his stability is refreshing and helps to keep you balanced amidst the chaos of your world.Maybe in more ways than one, but he definitely has real-world experience and the benefit of the 20/20 hindsight vision you won’t have for years.Rather, he is responsible not only for himself, but also for others. Without the pressure of all that, there’s a lot more time and room in a relationship to actually be in the moment and enjoy getting to know one another without feeling preoccupied by future expectations. He has a couch instead of a futon, there’s more than beer in his fridge and you aren’t likely to have to forage through his bathroom in search of something that resembles toilet paper.Can you imagine what a quiet apartment with no roommates sounds like? Aside from the whole divorce thing, he’s likely to have his life together (and if he doesn’t, run).