From childhood, men have been brought up to be fierce competitors, to opt for the most risky jobs, to put themselves on the line, to accept rejection “like a man” and to always make the first move.
And when things get too hot, women can either hide or delete their profile. The inappropriate comments can be deleted along with the men who express them. Take what you think is genuine and nice, get rid of the rest. Online dating has taught me to show compassion to men who aren’t that used to conversing in the way women do.The fact of the matter is that women receive far too much “unwanted” attention.While it does require less effort for women to get responses from the opposite sex, they’re not really in the best position, as they have to dig through a lot of junk before they find any substance.Related: I have met old and young, surgeons of renowned hospitals by the lake Geneva and managers from Zürich, unemployed and students of psychology.I learnt early on, that a walk and a cup of coffee would very efficiently show, how compatible we were.The truth is that the gut feeling very rarely led me astray.This was a learning process, because I had always listened to my head rather than my intuition. We become the grey background population that is not noticed until a man needs someone to get rid of his frustration.I have learnt to distinguish between the fakes, perverts and the quite normal guys looking for company. There is, more often than not, a good but shy heart behind the funny ways they communicate.Many men tell me that they are relieved to talk to a normal woman (whatever that is) because they have met several fakes, prostitutes and individuals who are only after money and financial support. The stories I have heard of women who are beautiful, wonderful wives and who decide that they don’t want any sex after they turn 40. The less interested partner always decides what happens or doesn’t happen in bed. One of the ways they show affection is through sex and that is taken away from them.What happened on the platform, would someone contact me, what kind of men were there, would I meet my next Prince on a White Horse there? My curiosity has been quenched to a certain extent after all these years.I still think people are interesting in general and men in particular.