Nobody likes to have to defend themselves or be forced into a corner. If you are distressed by your ex’s actions/words then you need to change the way in which you react to them otherwise you are setting yourself up for intense mood swings and even depressive episodes — let alone another break up.8.
Do not assume anything, always seek to understand and be understood Always ask your ex for clarification if you are not too sure about what he or she is saying; and be open to several solutions.
One of the hardest things to do is figuring out which behaviours are proper and which are potentially damaging.
Here are 8 simple rules that can help you not only make the experience a positive one, but actually get your ex back into your life — for good! Make sure you are emotionally available So much hurt, so much regret, so much anger and so much fear can make you emotionally unavailable on virtually every level imaginable.
As a general rule of thumb, if they haven’t responded to your attempts at making contact after three to four tries and you know they have access to phones, email and the internet, let it go and stop trying.
They might well surprise you –better to be pleasantly surprised than disappointed and devastated because you acted out of neediness and desperation.5.
Trying to put everything on fast forward is a huge mistake that actually slows down the process — and even permanently halts it.
Just because you want your ex back so bad, does NOT mean they feel the same about you at that point in time.
I am not going to lie to you, this is not going to be easy.Be honest with yourself and your relationship worthiness We’ve all heard it before, “before anyone can love you, you must love yourself”.So before you even contact your ex, remember one very important thing: nothing you do will work without love for yourself.Focus on the positive instead of focusing on the negative It’s impossible to make a positive impression and meaningful influence when you’re recalling negative emotions and constantly bringing up bad memories.And it’s self-defeating (and stupid) to be trying to get your ex back while at the same time you are blaming, criticizing, lecturing and even arguing with him or her.It starts with loving yourself, being honest to yourself and having enough confidence in yourself.When you are honest with yourself, you’re able to be honest with others.There will be a lot of work to do and you’ll meet with some resistance from time to time.Just remember there are so many men and women out there who have done it!The attraction and feelings you have for each other may still be the same but the relationship you had ended.And precisely because of that painful experience you are no longer the same people.