But some people experience symptoms earlier — right about when they are starting to date.“When I first got sick, I felt like I think every person does who gets manic or severely depressed — utterly alone,” says Jamison, whose new biography about the poet Robert Lowell, who also had the illness, is out now from Knopf.“There's no question that there are things that can be made easier by companionship.”Trying to find a companion, though, is hard enough without adding mental illness into the picture.And they’re gonna have a very difficult life if that's the case.”So how people with bipolar find success in dating?
“We’re distancing ourselves because we’re having trouble trying to understand what's going on inside our heads.”At the same time, it’s important to know that when you’re dating someone who doesn't have a mental illness that they may never understand fully what you’re going through.
Hannah Blum, an activist and blogger about bipolar issues, says that when she told her boyfriend about her diagnosis after eight months of dating, he began to use it to manipulate her.
“He was cheating on me and I confronted him about it.
Those people who don't want to be with you because of bipolar disorder, it's not because you're insane or weird or out there.
It's because they can't handle a challenge.