you married--and you will--just know this: there is hope. It's so beautiful, so wonderful, it takes your breath away.
Decaf, if you're wondering." Armed with new self-awareness and intense determination, I started looking every day for ways to manage the behaviors that had been wreaking havoc on our marriage.We didn't talk very much, because if we did, it usually led to arguments.We felt hopeless, sad, and confused, the way people do when they've lost their best friend.Like any other romantic couple, two adults who are in love in an Asperger's relationship are on cloud nine when they first meet.Reality sinks in once the emotional high wears off, and if there are not some tools for navigating the journey, Aspie-NT couples may find themselves at-risk.Kristen was essentially handed a user manual for her husband (and who doesn't need one of those?), which she used to learn how to engage with me more effectively.I learned how to manage my behaviors on my own and be a better husband.Occasionally I took things a little too far--holding routine performance reviews to measure my progress week to week, for instance--but for the most part, my Asperger zeal and single-minded determination served us rather well on our journey of reconstruction.I felt empowered and full of hope, which is a great feeling for anyone with such silly-looking thumbs.And Kristen was given a new perspective on who she was married to.