Critique around it often seems to stem from the notion that men are the only ones with "fetishes," (a word with negative connotations, but that I personally define as "preferences" or "sexuality"), and so women involved in fetishism of any kind must only be doing it for men.
But perpetuating as much only removes the autonomy of the many women who feel empowered by self-describing as a BBW.
For me, wanting to be with someone who loves my body isn't the same thing as wanting to be with someone who loves me for my body.
The term BBW is intrinsically linked to the world of fat porn and fat fetishism, but I've always believed that it's misunderstood.
I've been in a relationship with my current partner for over four years.
But if anything ever happened, I'd want to be with another someone who actually loves my body. This isn't to be confused with "someone who loves me for my body," and only that.
However, a site for plus size dating doesn't have to be about "fetishism," if that's a term one is uncomfortable with.
As Thorpe told ASOS in the same interview, "Personally, I am also not a fan of the term BBW — it makes me feel like I am a fetish purely for men and I’m not comfortable with that." Her thoughts on "BBW" aren't uncommon, and they're certainly understandable and valid.
In an ideal world — one where equality was actualized and the notion of body shaming antiquated — we wouldn't need the new plus size dating app Woo Plus. 2015, but the app has recently skyrocketed to the press' eye, and to its fair share of criticism.
We wouldn't need an "app for plus size singles and admirers to find their matches," as noted on the app's i Tunes landing page, or for "big beautiful women (BBW), big handsome men (BHM), fat admirers, chubby girl[s], Dadbod[s], curvy women, thick women, and everything in between," because the notion that fat bodies are as desirable as any other body type, in that some people find them desirable and some don't, would be understood — and not just by fat people themselves, but by all people. Refinery29's Liz Black took note of the app's "condescending ads," tweeting, "Like a plus size woman would be shocked a man thinks she's hot."Blogger Callie Thorpe of From The Corners Of The Curve told ASOS, "It feels that instead of addressing the way plus size women are treated in society — and most certainly on the dating scene — we are having to further separate them."In the same article, curve model Felicity Hayward said, "To then make a separate dating app for bigger girls is a completely backwards step.
Dating a plus size person is hard because being a plus size person is hard.
Size discrimination runs rampant, and it affects everything from healthcare to employment to media to the size of seats on public transportation to the self esteem of individuals.