But don’t let your dating relationship isolate you and keep you from enjoying time with other people.
Keep interacting and participating in your existing relationships with family and friends on a regular basis.
We are created by God to connect and yearn for relationship with one another. It’s only natural that as you get to know and like someone, that you desire for them to know and like the you.
But for many, the temptation can be to go too deep, too fast – especially emotionally. Why is it vital for us to guard our heart, as the writer of Proverbs puts it, .
And when we do this well, the reward is that our lives will resemble springs of living water!
The problem is that when a relationship prematurely moves too deep, too soon, it leaves us vulnerable to heartbreak and emotional damage.
And, the reward is that your life will resemble springs of living water!
Alisa Grace ('92) serves as a consultant to the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships where she also co-teaches a class on Christian perspectives on marriage and relationships.
Not long ago, I pulled out the shoebox and reread each letter, experiencing all over again the excitement of a new relationship, the uncertainty of reciprocated feelings and the hesitancy to let my heart run away with me.
I remember constantly asking myself, “Does he really like me? ” I also remember reading and rereading every card to decipher any hidden encouragement that he might truly like me as much as I was growing to like him.
In fact, now I can’t believe how obvious it was that he was falling in love with me. What I know now that I didn’t realize then was that I had set some pretty strong emotional boundaries in place.
And what I also know now is that it was a smart move.
As humans we all have the desire to know and be known by others.