Identify why you feel the need to yammer on -- nervousness, low tolerance for awkward silences, desire to impress with witty banter and accomplishments - and remember that you are not there to audition, but to relax and have a good time. Again, another big “no-no” identified in You need to show (not tell) men that you're a busy woman, with lots of friends, deadlines, projects and prospects (including romantic ones).When you accept so-called "spontaneous" invitations for the next day or even same evening, you send the message you've got nothing going on in your life - or nothing important, since you're willing to drop everything to accommodate him.The most common dating mistakes often spring from underlying issues of self-esteem (think too little of yourself, and you'll settle for less-than-ideal situations - think too much of yourself, and you believe bad behavior is absolved by your sheer fabulousness).More often, dating doozies result from failure to recognize - or simply accept - the different ways men and women approach relationships.If he's truly smitten by you, he'll rise to the challenge and cherish you more.
Once D-Day (decision day) arrives, and he's still waffling, then move on and do not look back (if he's ever going to know and man up to a proposal, this will be your best - and his last - chance).When Michael Lockwood was a single divorced dad, he'd often write down dating advice that he planned to give to his daughters when they grew up.Years later, he's turned those thoughts and advice into a book "Women Have All the Power, Too Bad They Don't Know It." Don’t be impressed by the unimpressive.Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.If you're still wallowing in despair over a break up, then put your profile on-line, start going to singles events, and let friends know you're available for set-ups.There is no better "healing" than the attention several new suitors.As Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo exhort the lovelorn in : "Don't waste the pretty!" Quick Fix: Know what you want - and believe you deserve it.Women who share intimate details of their lives and emotions too soon come across as desperate and neurotic.Quick Fix: Recognize that the more you talk about yourself, the less you'll be listening and observing whether he is right for you.