Recently divorced, she was overwhelmed by the mere thought of dating again.Yolanda's self-esteem was so damaged by her tumultuous breakup that she worried about her ability to start a new relationship, not to mention her rusty dating skills.You may miss the companionship of the opposite sex and we all know that developing a new relationship means dating. Nothing is more unattractive than prattling on and on about the problems in your past relationship because you've not dealt with negative emotions. Finding out if that person has traits we like and whether or not we care for a second date.
I call the manifestation of these standards one's "social price." The more you have to offer in a relationship, the more you can expect in return, thus increasing your appropriate social price.If you've always only dated a certain "type," this is your opportunity to give all "types" an opportunity. Whether to kiss at the end of the date or ask your date to sleep over is totally your call. At the end of the date if all you want is to flag down a taxi and head for home then you are free to make that choice.Don't box yourself in with self-imposed rules height, weight or profession. However it ends, remember to be courteous at the end of the night.After my six-year marriage ended abruptly, I went through all the post-divorce rituals: wallowing, getting a makeover, reading every self-help book.There was plenty of soul-searching and trying new hobbies like rock climbing and swing dancing in there, too.We hypothesized that singles seeking relationships assess unseen qualities in others based on social price as it is reflected in actions, body language, and verbal communication.We concluded that those exhibiting self-confident assertions of dating standards are perceived as holding relatively more promise as marriage partners.Their desperation usually stems from sadness, guilt, anger or anxiety about being alone."You get this feeling that you're in the worst possible situation in your life," Broder explains.So how can those who are struggling with these obstacles successfully and healthfully re-enter the dating arena?First, it's important to set appropriate personal standards.