For example, check out how the local guys your age have their hair cut, and what they’re wearing.I’ve seen foreign guys in nightclubs with tight business shirts and shiny business shoes on, and they’re getting nowhere. It’s actually not necessary at all, but if you insist, use a very, very light touch.In most parts of the world, a man will see a woman he likes, and he’ll approach her. Maybe he’ll ask if he can buy her a coffee, or some other type of drink. I’ll call it Manhattan behavior, because it was the way people dated when I lived in New York City.If they’re in a nightclub, he might ask her if she’d like to dance, or maybe go outside and get some fresh air. In fact, they will get you rejected, and then you’ll worry that that you’re being rejected because you’re a foreigner. Danes are not good with strangers, any type of stranger. Men would tell a lady how much money they made, and how much money they were going to make, how much power and influence they had, and how expensive their watch was. First of all, if you have money in Denmark, the government’s going to take it all away.I get a lot of mail from readers of this site, but a lot of the mail I get is on one particular topic. And I can tell you now, most of them will not immediately reject you because you have a different skin color.Here’s one from this week, from Teddy in Ghana: I WANT TO KNOW IF DANES WOMEN WILL DATE A GHANAIAN MAN. And one from last month, from Alex: “Hi, I’d like to know if Danish girls would date a bi-racial Brazilian guy.” And one from late last year: “I’m a gay African American male who would like to date a Dane. ” Basically, a lot of the mail I get is from men, wanting to know how they can get some action in Denmark. I know of several babies of mixed heritage here in Denmark.
However, if a woman is dining with a man, you can bet he will pick up the check. I usually trick them by asking to be excused (as if I was going to the lady’s room, grab the waiter and give him my credit card).The tax department will have your number, real fast.Second of all, Denmark is a very non-hierarchal society, very flat structure.Even for a married woman to go out with a male friend who is single: I often travel to Paris by myself, Leyla and Olivier stay in Paimpol, and have dinner with one (or several) of our good male friend(s), single or not.Olivier trusts me, and we both trust our friend(s), who would never make a pass at me.Whatever you do, frame it in a way to show how it’s helping people.I really suggest guys prepare a little speech to this extent before they start to meet women in Denmark. As a matter of fact, if you’re hoping to meet women in Denmark, do a little preparation beforehand.The game is the main point, it’s relatively innocent and usually no-one gets hurt, just a little blushed :-) With kissing hi and goodbye being the standard and French women being more “flirtatious”, it can be difficult for foreigners to correctly read a French woman’s body language.I guess since there is no set protocol, French women are pretty obvious, and often more direct than other women. It’s unlikely they’ll refuse to take it further, but not unheard of.But I would never do that to my Dad who would be very upset if I did. When I meet a man and I am without my husband, I’ll place within the first minutes of the conversation that “my husband blablabla… That usually is enough to make my state of mind really clear.I did the same thing as a girl, talking about my boyfriend (actually existing or not) early on in the conversation. And some people are just not faithful, but contrary to popular opinion, it’s not worse in France than anywhere else (and several studies demonstrate it). It’s in our genes and it’s socially accepted in France.