Maybe you're looking for someone to steadily date on a casual basis, or maybe you're actually looking to meet your next long-term boo.
While it might be a little intimidating to come out and ask someone what he is looking for, I find that being honest and straightforward is kind of a turn-on.
If he responds by elaborately describing what he wants to do to your body or what he wants you to do to his, then yeah, sex is definitely his primary agenda.
If that's what you're looking for, too, it might be titillating for you.
If someone is looking to hookup once, he will more than likely balk at the word "date." Those with commitment-phobia seem to prefer the term "hang out" to "date," and if he doesn't plan on calling after, he will probably correct you.
Even if he doesn't, whatever he suggests will likely shed some light on what he's after.
Maybe that last one-night stand left you feeling empty and unfulfilled, and you're looking for a more consistent hookup.Oh, gosh, the best part of this is that you can roll up in a pair of Converse and jeans and eschew all that other stuff. If a guy's kicking you out right after you're done, not the classiest move. Plus, then the mutual casual thing is visually established. Especially if your hookup buddy is pretty witty themselves.I've found the funnier people are, the more likely it is that humor is what turns them on, too.Who wants to waste time beating around the bush -- unless that's what you're into?If you're a bit shy about coming out and asking someone their true intentions, this question is a way for you to get a feel for the waters by dipping your pinky toe in first.No judgment — if two consenting adults want to text dirty ’til their fingers come off, I am here for it. There is one exception though: when it's funny sexting. If you can make me laugh, you can probably get me into bed.Straight up dirty talk gives me the heebie jeebies, so you better have some clever sexts to send me if you want me to reciprocate. Even if it's just to break the ice before you get into the the really freaky stuff, having something naughty but witty is great way to get the ball rolling.Occasionally, it's fine and fun, but bear in mind that unless you're making plans to hang out and/or do it, it's sort of pointless, no? Don't do the high-heel-and-skirt stuff with him. No soft gazes or meals in restaurants or talking about what colleges y'all went to! To be honest, I don't recommend it, but it's nice if he offers to let you stay or vice-versa, especially if it's super-late and your houses are really far apart.