This can be very hard for girls to do, but I often have to remind myself to “Be present.Enjoy the moments.” Isn’t that what it is all about? This is why I am in some way scared of commitment and marriage in my constant quest for adventure and new experiences.Their Principle #7 is Don’t Show the Movie Before the Trailer. “People arrive at their true feelings at their own pace” – Page 193.How many times have you been scared off because someone declares something that you weren’t ready to hear?They both had their share of insane heartache through tumultuous exes.Since they both were dating others when they met they continued to date others, but eventually started to see more of one another, and Greg never said to Amiira that she couldn’t see other people, but he allowed the relationship to grow organically.One of the ideas that is still lingering in my mind from this book is this – Why would you pick anyone else that doesn’t honor the very essence of you? “Isn’t the goal to meet someone who values himself as much as you value yourself? I loved how they said how you are in charge of your time and company and you get to set the value of your time and company; no one else chooses this but you. ” So many of us try to act better, look cuter, play games, and so on, to try to make someone want us or like us more.You want to be happy and be in a relationship where you can feel comfortable with who you are. There comes a time between being crazy and holding on to something that may never happen and being confident in yourself to realize if they don’t adore, respect, and admire you, you can’t hang on forever. I have learned in my old age what matters to me most is someone who makes me feel good about myself when I am with them. “It is hard to be in a relationship where there is an imbalance of feelings.
It is very important to not focus on the end result but the present reality.
Every girl in America was clamoring to buy that book.
Amiira so kindly gave me a huge collection of all of their books and CD’s, even Greg performing his stand-up comedy gigs on HBO. This book, , my girlfriends and I read this dating Bible together and were highlighting, dog-earring the pages, and sharing them aloud on the beach.
He actually said that when she was ready, he would like to date her exclusively when SHE was ready.
Eventually while they are dating Greg tells Amiira that he loves her, but she doesn’t have to say it back, just that he wanted her to know and that he understands she might not be at the same place emotionally.