I then turned my passion into a full-fledged business (Personal Excellence) which now earns me more than my previous job in P&G today, with 95% of my income being passive income.Today, I write at PE to a half-a-million readership every month.Believe it or not, even though I was trying my utmost ability to intimidate guys, I would still wind up intimidating them anyway, through no direct action of my own. (I later found out from a common friend that he is highly averse to strong female characters, which would include me.) I thought one reason for the unwitting intimidation could be my height, which is 1.7m—taller than the average Asian girl. I was chatting with my god-sister, Rita, while I was in Hong Kong, and she said something that made me see the situation in a different light.Another reason could be my talking speed, which is faster than the average person. I had always thought that the solution to my guy-intimidation problems was to shirk my character, dumb myself down, and/or work on my appeal as a woman…This reminds me of this incident two years ago where a friend’s friend, Kev, who is a spiritual practitioner, located me in a very busy locale in Hong Kong by way of my aura—during peak hours no less. It got to a point where I questioned my femininity. Rita thought for a while, and said, “I think that might be true for other girls.(I was in Hong Kong then for a business trip.) While my friend Fenix was getting ready to text me and check where I was, Kev simply told him, “No need. But for you Jie, I think it’s more of a case that guys are afraid you would hurt them.” While my immediate reaction was to burst out laughing because the thought of that happening sounded so ludicrous, I immediately stopped to think right after. Since my early 20s (I’m 28 at this point of writing), I’ve been regarded as a “power woman”.I can understand the source of these comments, for I’ve achieved certain noteworthy milestones in my life.
By being more and more accomplished, I felt I was in fact digging my own grave in the area of romance.
Depending on how things go, I’m possibly going on another long trip this year, scouring places like India, South Africa, and South America.
You can say that these “accomplishments” are atypical of an average person, much less a girl from Singapore.
Since becoming more prominent in my career would naturally make me a more powerful character, men would find my persona/success too intimidating and hence back off from pursuing me, rather than consider me romantically.
Note that I do have men expressing and/or showing interest in me on an ongoing basis; many times I’m flattered by the attention I get from some guys.