INTPs may struggle to maintain interest in those lacking sufficient intelligence, open-mindedness, or interests in intellectual or psychospiritual explorations.INTPs are especially drawn to those who have knowledge or interests in their own specialty area, making way for a sort of co-exploration of truth.Such qualities, combined with their intelligence and ambitiousness, can be of great appeal to prospective partners.Because of their Fe inferior, the INTP can enjoy being around people.But because Fe is a legitimate part of INTPs’ functional stack, we should not be too quick to dismiss the potential value of intimate relationships for INTPs.As the final function in their stack, understanding and integrating their Fe is critical to their self-actualization.It is therefore important that INTPs not give their Fe the upper-hand in selecting a long-term partner.Despite conventional wisdom that suggests that everyone should just “listen to their feelings,” this is not the best advice for T types, especially T dominants.
For this reason, among others, most INTPs are better off abstaining from any long-term commitments until later in their development. INTPs are often kind and considerate, wanting everyone to feel included and treated with respect (Fe). These functions contribute to their wittiness, personability, and sincerity, conferring a childlike innocence that others find refreshing.INTPs instinctively rebel in relationships where they feel smothered, stifled, or restrained.At the same time, less developed INTPs may find themselves drawn to individuals who are wounded or needy.At some level, INTPs feel like they need people and want an intimate relationship, while on another, they are afraid of losing themselves and their cherished freedom if they commit. Most partners are reluctant to grant them the degree of freedom and autonomy they desire, leading them to try to control the INTP.This of course, prompts the INTP to rebel, which causes the relationship to take a turn for the worse.The fact that INTPs can enjoy working independently for long periods of time may also discourage them from complicating their lives with relationships.Despite this relative independence, there invariably comes a time when their inferior function (Fe) beckons them to be around people.Since INTPs tend to view themselves as highly autonomous and self-sufficient, they usually look for similar traits in their partners.INTPs crave a lot of unfettered alone time and are rarely happy with partners who seem overly needy, demanding, or controlling.