For me the way I approach things now is with women is that I ask them out on “dates” but then I start vetting them right away in terms of questions to get to know them via contact with text, e-mail, or online conversation.
I ask any wide variety of topics including those which I linked in the questions and topics to talk to your prospective spouse article in conjunction with general conversation about life.
Any thoughts on any of the other topics that go along with engagement and marriage such as rings, weddings, and relationship concerns?
Ivory French casket with scenes of romances – possibly a courtship gift.
In this case, you should explore all of the passages relating to marriage on the Bible and see if that’s something you want to pursue: Proverbs, 1 Corinthians 7, Ephesians 5, Colossians 3, Titus 2, 1 Peter 3, etc.
Likewise, you should read the identity series on this site pre, one, two, three, four, five, six and the mission framework posts — the 19 of the most important posts I believe I’ve written on developing into a masculine Christian. There are enough ways to get to know a prospective spouse without talking to them in person as I mentioned earlier.
In some societies, the parents or community propose potential partners and then allow limited dating to determine whether the parties are suited.
Only a 2-4 months as you already know that this relationship is headed toward marriage, and that you both are serious about moving toward marriage. Wedding and potential rings (not diamond IMO as they depreciate significantly) should be kept at a minimum cost.
This will also tell you what type of woman you are dealing with in materialism concerns.
The same is true of the holidays like valentine’s day to see what she desires in terms of gifts and presents.
Thus, question to the readers of this blog who are single and seeking a wife: what is the length of time(s) you would consider pre-engagement and post-engagement to marriage?