You can’t browse pictures or profiles – you wait to be matched by the mystery algorithm after answering the 400 questions – then you are guided through a contact process.Some may think it lacks the spontaneity of other dating sites – and you certainly can’t use it to get a quick date for the weekend.Another friend is about to marry the short, bald banker with absolutely no ‘online dating’ message-type chat she met at a party.As a 5ft 9in glamorous cocktail type who says she hates bankers, she freely admits she’d have swiped right past him on Tinder or blocked him on Match – and he may well have done the same.A one step Facebook log-in process leads on to a few simple questions (the most obvious – height, kids, whether you drink or smoke), a description and a photo – then you are in. To use the site fully – sending unlimited messages to other members – payment is required.You can browse a selection of pictures and ages before logging in, anything more specific requires you to become a member. As with many free or low-cost sites, ads can be frequent and feel spammy.When she reduced her height to 5ft 9in, that rocketed to almost 2,000.A full 1,600 men would have unknowingly discounted this amazing person because of 2.5cm of extra leg length – and she would have continued to find internet dating limited and unsuccessful.
With judgemental tick-boxes they would have filtered out the very person they are in love with now.
Pitches itself as the site to go to for ‘serious, lasting relationships’ and marriage – which may well be refreshing to some in the current dating climate.
Psychologists and dating experts guide you through each step of the process – including messaging, which is somewhat structured and scripted – and there’s an anonomisation function for calling.
There are no compatibility filters, so once you’ve filtered by the basics, there’s no way of narrowing it down.
However, perhaps controversially, arguably this is more of a pro than a con – as the saying goes, opposites attract!