Pride doesn’t help in times like this, it only hurts.The thing is, just sticking around doesn’t mean you’re a better person.
One of the most common examples of this are people who realize they are no longer attracted to their partners.
Essentially, I feel trapped in a long distance relationship.
Feeling trapped probably means I should end it, but, I’m feeling pretty conflicted about a lot of things.
Every visit, I’d leave not sure if I wanted to be with this person but as soon as I’d come home loneliness and nostalgia set in and suddenly I’m thinking “Well, it’s probably not as bad as all that. As much as I’m a non-confrontational person, I’ve tried to do some prodding about these issues, and I’ve been met with firm resistance. I don’t enjoy our time together in person, but maybe I just need to get used to it? Staying with her is easier, and safer, and better (so I tell myself). If I break things off now, I will have been wasting her time, for years.
I can deal with this.” Even though I KNOW THIS IS TOTALLY INSANE. She does NOT think she should have to change for my sake. There’s still that person I’ve been talking to on the internet, right? She’ll feel betrayed, furious, devastated, and the thought of that makes me feel physically ill.