Here’s how those patterns manifest themselves, and why they are detrimental for a genuine connection between two individuals.
Consequently, the thought of them telling me exactly how they feel is simply unbearable.
And, it’s a truly terrible position to put yourself in.
An awfully ironic one, even: what starts as a fear of rejection soon becomes rejection itself. Or you want to feel needed/wanted, these characters are embedded in people with less than high self-esteem avoid conflict at every cost.
In order to build a healthy relationship (a union), you need two healthy individuals (sets).
Otherwise, you’re risking to find yourself in a co-dependent affair.