Besides, as a full-time working mom in her 30s, I don't have a ton of single people in my social network anymore.And as much as I don't feel ready for anything serious, I figured it would be nice to get out and have some fun.Besides, I have gotten older since my last stint in the virtual dating world, so it's only a natural progression, perhaps?
Boy, I was not ready for the online dating world that I was greeted with.Is it me, or have men gotten nastier, or just more persistent? I'm surprised there weren't footnotes along with his words. I then went on Facebook to discover that lo and behold, he had messaged other women — friends of mine in my area — the very same thing.Before I was a married lady, there were a few guys online who would pester me if I didn't respond, but now if I don't answer someone, I get insults hurled at me by the dozen and a flurry of numerous emails from someone I've never even responded to. I finally messaged him back to say thank you for the sweet words, feeling guilty for his efforts, but that I was not interested. Apparently he has a thing for blondes and redheads.If you've spent any time on dating apps, you know single parents make up a significant percentage of users. Whether recently divorced or just busy with parenting, lots of moms and dads don't have the time or inclination for a serious relationship. Sure, there are lots of ways to date seriously and slowly integrate a new partner into a child's life.But what if you're looking for something more casual?It wasn't god-awful, but I just felt it took too much work, the guys were too creepy or old for me, and I never felt compelled enough to go out on a ton of dates.Now that I am almost divorced, though, a co-worker of mine gently nudged me to give it a try and see what the whole online world has to offer.Now online dating is more of the norm, and there's all walks of life: from the 20-year-old to the 60-year-old, and that's a positive, in my opinion. I guess you're just looking for sex." (Not with you I'm not, pal.) "Bitch." It's insane. The intensity, the persistence, and the nastiness were not what I expected.Like my ex-husband tells me, "There's an ass for every seat." Love is out there for everyone. One guy sent me four Shakespearian-length emails that, while sweet, were insanely long. A guy messaged me asking if I would mind being his foot slave, whatever that entails.I don't think I'm any better-looking, but that perhaps people have gotten bolder! After trying the sites for a short time, I am retiring my accounts for a while. I know a bunch of happily married people who met their better halves online, but I don't have the energy, heart, or time right now to make it work like they did — to weed through the foot-slave applications to find a prince.My co-worker nudged me toward one very popular dating site after meeting her husband on there, so I gave it a shot. I made it out on one single date and never went out with him again. It was a great experience, though, because I put myself out there, and besides, he was a nice seemingly normal single dad and not a serial killer.