Dating in your early 20s can and should be fun — it’s a great time to be single.
But it can also be confusing (and totally heartbreaking) if you’re looking for a committed relationship while the person you’re dating is still in the process of seeing where it goes with you — and about three or four other people at the same time.
I was focused on school, my friendships, and figuring out what I wanted out of life.” It’s okay to be single and comfortable with it.
Throughout the day commercials for E-Harmony, J-Date, Christian Mingle, Match.com, Chubby Chasers, or whatever other bullshit dating websites are played non-stop.
But if you’re finding that there’s nobody good to date, it might be time for a change of scenery.
You don’t have to completely turn your life around to meet new people.
Having that spark and attraction for your partner is important, but solid and happy relationships don’t necessarily have to start from there.
So who better to ask for love and dating advice than two women who dish it out on the daily?Some really good things to look out for are: Be completely authentic to who you are.When you’re being your true self, you’ll feel much more confident on dates. “Throughout college, I dated but had very few actual relationships while most of my friends were almost always in serious ones,” Bergstein says.So do your best to not get wrapped up in what other people may (or may not) think, and focus on getting to know a new person who you have some things in common with. “I’m super outgoing and I personally never felt a connection with my online dates,” Leiser says. ” Understand that chemistry can grow and change over time.“So instead, I put my effort into going out and meeting people rather than spending time swiping for guys.” But just because online dating doesn’t work for her, she wants to make it perfectly clear that it doesn’t mean it won’t work for you. You don’t need to feel that all-consuming passion when you first lock eyes with someone to know that it’s going to be a good relationship.But who really wants to pay just to find someone worth there time? Women know that we aren’t looking to find something long-term at the bar. More and more you see attractive females take to the internet to find possible matches.If you’re over the age of 25 (or god forbid 30) and single, chances are you have decided that there aren’t any girls looking to actually date anyone that they meet at the bar. Now if you are middle-aged and not trying to take any chances, then perhaps you will waste your time, money, and effort meeting some fellow middle-aged strumpet with 4 kids and taste for expensive things bought by you.After graduation, we went to different colleges and grad schools (him in Pennsylvania, me in Florida) but kept in touch and stayed friends throughout.” She continued, “For 14 years, neither of us viewed the other romantically.In fact, when our friends started to question our relationship a few years ago, we both vehemently denied that even the possibility of a romantic connection existed.Thankfully, Bergstein and Leiser gave Awesomeness TV some really great advice on the best ways to approach dating in your early 20s.As you’ll quickly find out, it’s all about staying true to you. Consider potential dates who are slightly outside of your “type.” “There are many fantastic people in their 20s that are overlooked for lots of reasons, but one that comes up a lot is the fear of how that relationship will be seen or perceived by others,” Bergstein says. But if you don’t like it, find dates in a way that feels authentic to you!