These are not things you’re going to be able to do on a first date!
Because of the flexibility that phone conversations give you, I wouldn’t recommend going to overboard in preparing for the first phone call.
This could include things like: Preparing for and discussing these areas is all about trying to find something they are interested in and then using that as a way to ask for a first date.
For example, if you are discussing restaurants you’ve tried, and they explaining how much they loved the new Thai place, you could say something like: The above might seem like over-thinking things but honestly I found asking women out over the phone could feel very abrupt when done wrong.
Now the first thing I want to say is that early on in my online dating experience I did move from emails to phone calls and then first dates.
We’d be talking about some sporting event or family stuff but all I’d be thinking to myself over and over was, “After this conversation ends I’m going to ask her out….after the conversation ends I’m going to ask her out…after this conversation ends I’m going to ask her out…”.
And then I would jump all over the first chance I had but it would feel like something random when I asked that way and I remember a few women being caught off guard (which introduced a bit of awkwardness for us both).
So when I think of preparing for the first phone call, it’s not really about preparing for that call at all.
It’s more about preparing to move the relationship to the first date.