Put five women in a room and ask about what’s attractive and you’ll end up with six opinions. ” Confidence is a part of what is sometimes called “alpha” behavior.
Confidence is one of the most commonly given pieces of advice when guys want to know how to get better with women. It’s a sign that someone is self-reliant and has the ability to take care of themselves and others. Evolutionarily speaking, it’s the trait of someone who has the capability to be a good provider and protector to his mate and dependents. Humans are pack animals and we naturally gravitate towards those whom we believe can be of a benefit to us. When you’re approaching women, you can’t hesitate or be shy.
otherwise known as “fake it until you make it.” Here, we go back to some evolutionary psychology.
As pack animals, we are constantly aware of status; the alphas lead the pack, they get the first choice of food, they get the best choice of mates and are more likely to pass on their genes to their offspring.
Being and displaying these attributes means being willing to take charge and make decisions, not just go along with what everyone else is doing.
When others are hemming and hawing, you should have a plan.
If you don’t have a wing-woman available, there are ways of displaying pre-selection.
Take deliberate steps, as though you were walking towards something with purpose and everything should get out of your way. Minimize any short, quick moves; these make you appear nervous. By assuming the physical behaviors, you will be training your brain to respond as though you confident.
Practicing this will help you build up your natural confidence…
Despite her being beautiful and royalty besides, Solo was more than willing to not just address Leia as an equal but to call her out when he thought she was wrong or being foolish.
Just remember: there’s a difference between being assertive and being an asshole.