Finally, despite what many people think, opposites very rarely attract.
Proximity matters because it increases the chances people will interact and come to feel part of the same “social unit”. People perceived to be physically attractive get asked out on dates more often and receive more messages on online dating sites.
Human psychology is too complex to reduce to rules or laws of attraction – but that’s not the same as saying that there’s nothing to be gained from understanding the processes involved in attraction.
Understanding the science of attraction can’t guarantee you a date tonight, but it can point the way towards forming mutually benefiting relationships with other people. Well, first, it turns out that one of the strongest predictors of whether any two people will form a relationship is sheer physical proximity.
People in romantic relationships, particularly new relationships, are biased in how they perceive their partners.
They view their partners as more attractive than objective reality – something I’ve called the “love-is-blind bias”. This idea of reciprocity may sound very simple, but it has incredibly important implications for all relationships.