Abstinence before marriage, and fidelity within marriage — refraining from sex with someone other than your husband or wife — is just one of those basic rules that keeps you inside the Christian community. Practicing premarital chastity is also important because it safeguards and protects marital sex — that is, it protects us, so that if and when we do get married, we are able to experience sex as God intended it to be. Think about the TV shows or movies you've seen, in which people have premarital sex. It is almost always portrayed as being — because, almost by definition, it is part of a relationship that is itself not wholly stable.
Even when you've been dating someone for a year, the lack of permanence that characterizes your relationship seems to add a certain frisson to everything you do with that person, from going on a Saturday hike to smooching on the sofa. It becomes a ritual in itself; it becomes a routine.
This should be no surprise, since we have an enemy set against us and our impending marriage (1 Pet. He hates God, and he hates marriage because it depicts the gospel (Eph. One of Satan's most effective strategies to corrupt the gospel-portraying union of marriage is to attack couples through sexual sin before they say “I do.” Here are four of his most common ploys to attack marriages before they begin.
God's ways are good, but Satan wants us to believe they aren't.
If we learn to do what we want when we want before marriage, we'll carry that pattern into the days and years that follow.
This, however, is deadly since service and sacrifice are essential to a healthy, Christ-honoring marriage.
The sweet conversations that once marked their relationship had been replaced with constant bickering. The Devil had begun his work before they'd even made it to the altar.
There's a world of difference between premarital sex and sex within marriage.
One reason is that the forbidden fruit of lust portrays sex before marriage as something it isn't always in marriage. And unmarried believers wait for the blessings of marriage. Sexual sin doesn't need to be dagger in the heart of your courting relationship, engagement, or marriage.
Whenever they'd sin, they'd confess to each other and make oaths to never let it happen again. Because of the shame, they never let anyone else in on what was happening.
In hindsight, Tim and Jess admit their courtship was a big cover-up of deceit.