Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist at the New York Presbyterian Hospital.When your teen sees his dad treating you with kindness and respect, he is more likely to treat girls and women the same way.
Trust me, mothers of sons can be just as psychotic as fathers of daughters, and to avoid that, I have come up with the following rules for dating my son: 1. I have already heard stories of girls who suddenly began cutting themselves, ran away from home, and have threatened to kill themselves. If your name is "Becky Jones", I don't want to see "Becky Berg" written all over your notebooks. Many will be worthy of your hand in marriage, but my son isn't going there until he has his degree(s) and has a good job. These rules are WAY more lenient than some other mothers who want the girl to carry a bible and wear a chastity belt.Notice what "dating" seems to mean to your child and then talk about it.Michelle Anthony, Ph D, a developmental psychologist and learning therapist in Denver, suggests an opening line like: “It sounds like a lot of kids are talking about dating now. ” If you can't tell what dating means to your kid, try discussing dating as shown on TV shows or in movies that are age-appropriate.Tell your daughter to invite her date in so you can meet him, to be respectful and to thank her date if he pays.Although the list is a long one, the aforementioned approaches to dating are just a few on a list of many; the bottom line is that your teen respects his date and his date's personal boundaries."Most of the activity happens in a pack, and communication takes place between friend groups." By 8th grade, dating probably means talking on the phone and hanging out, usually in groups.By high school, kids are more likely to develop serious romantic attachments.The 14 missed calls and 12 texts that show up on his phone make you look like a psycho. Ask me how school is going, or how things are with the family. My son has many plans for his future that depend on his grades. If he hasn't called or texted me, and is more than 5 minutes late, you won't be seeing him for a few days. My list is completely spam free, and you can opt out at any time.I don't like psychos, and he won't either by the time I am done with him. A couple of my son's "friends that are girls" (Melissa & Rachel...thank you) have even sent me texts in the past, and I LOVE THAT! Therefore, school always comes before dates, phone conversations and even texting. We love including the girlfriends in our family functions, but we can't always do that. I have raised my son to be a gentleman, and therefore, have prepared him to date a lady. I take this rule seriously, mostly because I wait up for him and I'm ready to turn into a pumpkin when the clock strikes midnight. The same goes for the way you treat his father; if he sees you treating his dad with kindness and respect, he’s more likely to expect that treatment from girls and women as he gets older. When she learns to be proud of herself, to respect herself and to value her self-worth, she is less likely to engage in risky dating behavior, including sex and violence.He will learn compromise, friendship, love and respect when you are good role models of each. Do this by praising her good behavior, disciplining her when she misbehaves, treating her with respect and trusting her.