' and reluctantly admitted he'd been looking forward to another note.
It just never occurred to him to tell me how much he had liked them all along."Like Quinn, your guy probably thinks it's a given that he's grateful.
"Men in relationships have a different code of behavior than women do," explains clinical psychologist Robert H. The real trick to relationship bliss is understanding how the boyfriend brain really works so you don't spaz every time he baffles you.
Phillips, Ph D, author of Love Tactics: How to Win the One You Want. To help, Cosmo uncovered the reasons guys do the crazy things they do so you can stop scratching your head.
He may act like a tough guy, but he secretly wants to be babied.
Selma, 24, loves that her boyfriend is a real guys' guy.
The horn dog genuinely can't help the fact that he's physically turned on by you in that heated moment.
But, hey, if you seriously need him to back off and listen to you, be up-front. You love it when your guy goes out of his way for you.
Help him choose the right tie to wear to a crucial job interview.
Tell him that what would turn you on more than anything is resolving the issue at hand. Here's the flip side: He feels equally adored — and appreciative — when you go the extra mile for him. "It's not that he doesn't take note of what you do for him; he does," says Barton Goldsmith, Ph D, psychotherapist and syndicated columnist.
"But gushing doesn't come naturally to men." Think about it: A guy would never say to one of his boys: "Dude, it was really thoughtful of you to buy me a beer last night." They just don't go there. When he began traveling for work, Jill started tucking cards into his suitcase.
"One minute, Charlie is screaming at me, calling me Bridezilla.
Then I bend down to pick up my checkbook, he gets a glimpse of my cleavage, and — bam — he's all over me. It felt like some sneaky ploy to change the subject." No doubt you've experienced similar behavior from your beau. But before you let his amorous one-eighty make your head spin, take heed: The reason guys are always up for action — even if you're not on speaking terms — is because sex and relationship satisfaction are not the same thing for them.