Or have we bought the idea that we need to be smaller in order to be loved?Whether it’s weight or height, one thing is for certain: Women generally don’t like feeling big. Only weeks after that guy asked if I would hypothetically be interested in a man shorter than me, I unexpectedly met the man who would become my husband at an Iron and Wine concert in Chicago. And while he makes me feel feminine, one thing’s for certain: He never makes me feel like I need to be smaller.
In my work with women, I’ve found that there are two basic reasons why most women won’t date a short man: Some women will feel nervous about being too big, telling themselves they’ll look smaller if they’re with a bigger guy; others simply want the knight in shining armor, and they need a man to live up to a fantasy image of masculinity and size, telling themselves that a bigger man is also automatically emotionally stronger, too.
In one swift swoop—like a scene out of —he’d lift me up with one hand, and I’d laugh. While describing this vision might sound absolutely ridiculous (please, someone, laugh at me), I know I was certainly not alone in this opinion.
Hang out in any girl’s college dorm room for long enough, and you know: Height matters in dating.
I distinctly remember brainstorming who I was going to invite to my first dance as a freshman. He was cute, friendly, funny, and pretty much the ideal first-dance date candidate except for one thing: He was a couple inches shorter than me. If I still felt petite wearing four-inch heels with my frame of 5 feet 6 inches, he was worth my attention.
Slowly, this extreme standard of height waned, but I still felt awkward if he was near as tall as I was.