I wanted to make him stop," she says."Everybody had to be boiled down to the minutiae of what people best fit into," says Perl-Raver.
"They didn't talk about any of the nuances in their personality.""I had to ask myself, is that the person I really am or is that just how they're portraying me? Chris eventually hoped Jennifer, who was portrayed as a fit, athletic girl, would ‘join him on the balcony' – the contestants' way to signal a mutual match – but all three women chose to leave the house without meeting Chris. Sasha says none of the women were attracted to him, but the episode made it look like they had tough decisions to make and plenty of confrontation to deal with."It really bothered me that they made it seem like the girls were against each other,' says Perl-Raver. We laughed so hard that the producers yelled at us for having too much fun."Perl-Raver also commented on how tried to manufacture emotional and physical conditions to heighten to the probability of dramatic moments and entertaining television."It's psychological warfare when you're doing a reality show," she adds.
Have networks and producers skewed reality so much over time that it's no longer about real people and real life, or have we just mislabelled a genre that thrives on manufactured clichés, unreal situations, and good old fashioned voyeurism?
"The word people should be looking for is television, not reality," says contestant Sasha Perl-Raver, who was one of six people looking for love in the third episode of this year's new ABC reality romance series.
Perl-Raver believes reality television has an opportunity to illuminate some of the more truthful sides of life – details about real people, real feelings, and real situations.
I asked Perl-Raver what she thinks about ultimate question, is love blind? "The only love that's truly blind is between a parent and their child.
She spoke with me recently about her televised dating experience and had some insightful comments on reality TV today, how it got here, and where it should head next.
Perl-Raver admits that she had her own reasons for appearing on , in which each episode, three men and three women get acquainted in complete darkness before selecting a suitable match to see in the light.
Some of this is real, some of it's not." She acknowledges that most reality shows state in their closing credits that decisions are influenced by producers, but that might not be enough for mass audiences to see and understand.
"You walk away a little bit damaged."TVDone was launched in April of 2009, in hopes to get exposure so when site owner/founded Adam Wright graduates, he has lots of experience and contacts for a job.
Adam is currently taking Journalism at St Thomas University in Fredericton NB (Canada).
She's writing a book on dating and wanted to put herself in as many situations as possible, including reality TV, speed dating and more traditional ways of finding that special someone.
She wasn't the only contestant with another agenda."Everyone had ulterior motives," says Perl-Raver.