In August 2012, the 35-year-old performer was awarded primary care of the children after a ruling by a Georgia judge.
The moral to the story is: if you have a disease and you don’t tell someone, you put them at risk, and they don’t get to decide on the act or relationship with all the facts. And this applies to every aspect of our dating lives, not just STD’s."His revelation comes just weeks after he expressed his hopes that his ex-wife will drop his last name once he remarries."I'll marry again.You know, I don't want to have a harem," the father-of-two said.These are the same people(your fans), same magazines and news papers that applaud your music and talent, that showcase your success as an artist, your love as a father and who have honored you as a member of the black community. Just like that, you are reduced to simply a story line, and your business is all in the streets. Social media can be like shark infested water, all they need is a little “chum” or for someone to fall off the boat, and the mindless feeding frenzy begins.Black folks in particular feed off of this kind of thing. We are the kings and queens of tear downs, demonstratively hateful gossip, and finding ways to shame one another or point out our brothers and sisters mistakes and missteps.Too many black folk in particular find this situation joke worthy.I apologize that our community finds humor in disease and in stories that hurt others.I believe it gives those telling someone else’s news, a moment where they don’t have to think about their own misery, ugliness, vulnerability or pain. You have this difficult moment to reflect and teach. All involved will find a way to keep going forward. The victims in your case will be a little more financially secure at your expense and though that doesn’t fix the life long condition, it certainly makes life a little easier for them.Confessing an incurable disease is risky for anyone, but exposing it as a celebrity has to be the scariest thing ever. People pay money for that kind of news story, whether you’ve infected someone or not in today’s “sell a celebrity story to TMZ for a check” climate. We have to talk about it openly and do forums that help ease the stigma and that provide a way to share the news safely. You, Usher, have an opportunity, like Magic Johnson did back in the day with his HIV diagnosis, to make people aware of the disease and impact lives. Use it to be brave, to stand up and to create something meaningful. You and all involved will bounce back and keep living. Again, millions upon millions of people have it, who never were given money to ease the pain or shame or give them the means to buy medications, pay bills or take a vacation to clear their head.I am sorry that we have become disconnected to the point where we don’t stop to think before we pass along hurtful memes, videos or news clips that expose our people suffering.I apologize that basic humanity is no longer present in this social media, disconnected world that we live in.