He was sweet and inquisitive, and she was funny and a little shy.
They each asked me questions, while he held her hand between their beers.
We settled into conversation that felt natural and flirtatious, and ended the night with hugs and promises to make plans in the future. A solo date with the husband led to hurt feelings for the wife, despite our agreement that I'd hang out with both of them separately.
It’s always tricky to navigate other people’s emotions, and even sometimes our own.
She was also looking to expand her sexual boundaries.
And she understood these things about herself prior to entering any three-person scenarios.
)Sure, it can be intimidating to share intimate information with people you’ve recently met.For the unicorn, there are two people to impress, two people to be impressed by, and three sets of wants, needs, and desires that you have to contend with if you’re going to have an enjoyable, comfortable time.The couple I met for drinks was also new to three-person dating.It earned its mythical name because willing participants tend to be rare and difficult to find, though online dating has helped connect unicorns with couples more easily than ever (there’s even an app for seeking out a unicorn relationship, Feeld).It was never really a title I thought I’d be interested in trying out, but after years of singledom I found myself more sexually curious than I’d been before.Take it slow, and give yourself the time to feel comfortable in communicating clearly.There’s no rush to jump into bed, and if there is, you might want to ask yourself why—it could be that you’re having second-thoughts, and you should take those feelings seriously.But your needs, your desires, and importantly, your boundaries have not yet been a part of that conversation, and it’s up to you to make them clear.You might be fulfilling a fantasy of theirs, but you’re not just there to serve, or to act as an accessory.Even in conversation, it felt good to be someone who could fulfill not just one person’s fantasy, but two at once.But I quickly discovered that, like any type of dating, this arrangement can sometimes be complicated and confusing.